As many of you know, we had the great privilege of meeting the wonderful, kind and cute Joslyn Fox and speaking with her for an interview. What you might not know is the interview went much longer than expected and we covered so much stuff we thought we’d break down the conversation into pieces. We thought we’d start with the beautiful relationship between her and her husband Andre.
The love story of Patrick Joslyn more commonly known as Joslyn Fox and Andre Girouard is a beautiful one, reflective of a “typical lesbian” relationship they dated for a few months and then Joslyn moved in and they’ve been together for 6 years, 4 of which they were engaged. But the impromptu wedding at the reunion, has a story of its own. The original plan was for Joslyn to surprise Andre with the wedding, but no sooner had she spoken with producers and shared the “secret” with Andre than they decided they didn’t have the time to include it. So Joslyn went on with life and didn’t think anything of it, literally up to and including when Andre was the next one to ask a fan question.
Andre was in touch with the producers the entire time and able to hide it from Joslyn by adding the producer as “Dad” into his phone. Being trusting as she is, she did notice Andre’s “Dad” was calling him way more than usual, but believed him when he said everything was fine. Andre is normally such a shy person, Joslyn can’t even bring him to the stage for songs she’s dedicating to him, so she never would have thought he’d be able to get into the spotlight in such a manner. When he got up to read the fan question she thought “Andre, now is not the time to go to the bathroom, the camera’s right there!” And when he went toward the microphone she thought, “you’re going the wrong way, the bathroom is back there!” He got up and asked to get married then participated in the wedding all in front of a live audience and later aired on national television and she’s so proud of him for doing so.
She told us about all the clues she missed including the crew looking for flowers, Joslyn told the crew, “I’ll help you look for the flowers!” They had to tell her she couldn’t, but she was so happy for them when they found the flowers she said, “oh, I’m so glad they found the flowers,” on her way to the stage. She did admit she wished she had been better able to process the wedding when it was happening, but she did feel a little freaked out because she’s such a control freak and had no control over what was happening.
As far as married life goes, it’s the same as before the wedding, but that was always great. They have mutual respect for each other and Andre even manages Joslyn. Although he can’t unhook a bra, he does help her prepare for her performances. We wish them all the happiness in the world.
The Congenial Race
From the onset, Joslyn Fox said wanted to win the crown on Season 6, but she didn’t want to win by putting other people down. Which she attests to possibly being her downfall. She says the show was an honest depiction of her and she wasn’t filtering herself at all. In her mind she was “there making friends, learning, enjoying myself and just trying to enjoy the ride the best I could. I probably should have been more focused on winning… if I were to do it differently I would have done all those things differently.”
When we asked if she was as bubbly as she is portrayed on the show all the time, she said she does try to keep positive and keep her personal stuff to herself. However, there is a side of Joslyn that goes a little deeper. She shared with her Season 6 sisters in the workroom the story of her six year old nephew who passed away one day after receiving the rejection for Season 5. She reflected, “I remember stirring a pot of eye shadow, I was just staring at it because I didn’t want to look any of them in the face. I remember looking up and all of them were balling crying all their makeup off. We were in the mirror putting on our makeup and they were all crying it off. Darienne slamming her hand on the table saying ‘it’s not fair, it’s not fair, he was 6 years old it’s not fair’.” Joslyn told us when she was eliminated they asked her to speak about her nephew and her personal battle with suicide but none of that conversation was aired.
Joslyn doesn’t know if people would have treated her differently if more of that side of her would have been aired. Perhaps they may have seen her as more vulnerable and not come for her because she takes it and doesn’t lash out. But the young kids love her for her strength and optimism and the fact that she isn’t intimidating. She naturally has a draw to her when people meet her.
She says she gets people telling her that they want to be friends with her all the time, but she said she doesn’t have a lot of friends she hangs out with because of
where she lives. There just aren’t a lot of people nearby. But she’s really close to her family and her family is close to each other. Her mother and mother-in-law are best friends and Andre, her husband’s, sister and Joslyn’s brother are dating, so those two families are intertwined like no other.
Mrs. Fox is just naturally a kind person and having talked with her for hours was truly a highlight of our lives. For any who say anything negative about Joslyn, she may see or hear it, but she definitely knows she’s doing her best and constantly improving for those fans who love her and express their love. Stay tuned, for the fan question responses, you asked, she answered.
Death, Fame & Guilt
While Joslyn is the most humble and kind person with a lighthearted manner, there is a darker side she shared with us. She admitted to growing up with her best friend, Paul and being “celebrity obsessed and we were going to do anything we could to be famous and to be successful.” They both pursued their own avenues, but Joslyn made it on RuPaul’s Drag Race while Paul was still struggling. Paul felt some sense of failure due to Joslyn’s success. While people tell her not to blame herself, she feels a sense of responsibility and ultimately guilt for her success due to the timing of his suicide.
Paul was in Chicago during the premier of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 6 and Paul’s boyfriend was at Gia Gunn’s premier party while Joslyn and their other best friend were together at Joslyn’s in Worcester. She said he must have felt alone in that moment, but it was too much for him to handle. He couldn’t be happy for Joslyn because he was too much in his own head about his own sadness. She said, “it’s just a hard thing to swallow because he did it on that night.” Paul bought Star Magazine every week and the week of Paul’s funeral Joslyn was in it. She feels like every time something great happens in her career there seems to be a reminder of him.
Joslyn remembers when they used to go to meet and greets with Britney Spears and Jessica Simpson and waiting in line overnight for the chance to get an autograph and picture. She feels like if he hadn’t killed himself he may have been living vicariously through her now that she’s on the other side of it and thinks, “Dude, I did it and where are you? It’s hard to wrap my head around it because I’m still going through that.” She said she cries herself to sleep, she does feel very lonely and gets inside her head.
It’s very emotional for her but she doesn’t want to be crying for her fans’ pictures so sadly, Joslyn bites her tongue during her own meet and greets so she doesn’t cry. She recalled one of her favorite times, “this girl came up to me and she was so nervous and she was shaking and I fixed her hair for the picture. She just had all this makeup on and it just didn’t match her because you could tell she was just so shy but her look was like she was so confident. So she posed for the picture and she walked off and then she stopped and she turned around and came back to me, it was like she had this thing in her head she wanted to say but she was too nervous to say it, she said ‘um, I just want to say thank you because you give me the confidence every day to be more like who I am and be honest and be my true self’ and she just walked away and I started balling.”
Joslyn says even with all the hate she gets, the people that give her this type of love make it all worth it. She said she gets messages from people who have problems with suicide and she feels like she may have a good platform to help people understand and relate. Joslyn is a true gem and sharing this part of her with us meant a lot. We debated about writing this because it was so emotional and in fact brought tears to our eyes, but we feel it is important for anyone who is dealing with sadness, depression or any thoughts of suicide to know they’re not alone.
Rest in peace Paul and our thoughts and love go out to your friends and family. If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, please reach out to someone, click on this link www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org or speak to someone. Get help, because suicide is not the answer.
More to come!